SAMIA: Hello, Salam, Shalom, Namaste, Sat Sri Akal, Aloha, Holah, Ciao, Bonjour, Buna and Privet! I hope I said that right... But you're so so welcome I'm so happy you have joined us again and I'm so happy to be joining you again and we have a very very special guest with us I'm sure you will learn so much from listening to our conversation with her today and it's Sheila Kadeer who is an Intuitive Business Alchemist… I think that's so cool... Welcome Sheila…

SHIELA: Thank you… Lovely to be here... Lovely to be talking to you today…

SAMIA: Yes I'm so excited to learn more from you and actually will you jump right in and tell us more about who you are and what you do... 

SHIELA: Yes of course... So my name is Sheila I'm an Intuitive Business Alchemist... And my background is actually in corporate and the police as well so I've had an interesting journey from police private investigation and now to coaching women who want more out of life …you know they want to create a legacy business they want to create change and make an impact in the world so that's what I help them with... I help removing the core wounds that are holding women back from elevating to their next level income and impact so that they can attract all the clients that they desire and create that life that brings them that fulfillment that joy and knowing that they are fulfilling their mission and having that life of freedom that they want for themselves and their children… so and I do this through... subconscious work… energetic work... So I'm a therapist and healer and I heal on all different levels as well …so that could be past life it could be ancestral but I kind of like get to the core wounds and take them out at that core… 

SAMIA: Oh... That is so cool and so important that you do that... And you know one of the things that you're really amazing at teaching people about is this idea of soul wounds... Can you tell me more about that...

SHIELA: Yeah... So this is a phrase that I came up with for this I feel that there are Four Core Collective Wounds so these are in the collective and these are The Witch Wound… The Priestess Wound… The Starseed Wound… and The Sisterhood Wound... and they all kind of like intermingle really but they're kind of like ingrained you know I kind of like feel that they're ingrained in our soul and when we come into this life there are remnants that are attached to us from these wounds that have come over from past lives from our ancestors… they're in our DNA for example …and they kind of like stop us… so as soon as we start to become successful one of these wounds can appear or start to make itself known to stop you to hold you back …and I find this a lot with with Spiritual Entrepreneurs... They get to a certain point and then they can't speak …you know they can't go on lives or they feel that they can't put their stuff out there… their work out there… they feel embarrassed or ashamed …and this comes from that wounding from those past lives and our ancestors…

SAMIA: That is really fascinating... Can you tell me more about... so maybe we can talk a little bit about each of the four kinds of wounds just so we have a better understanding of what each one of them might look like or feel like so that if I have it I can recognize it...

SHIELA: Yeah absolutely absolutely… So the Witch Wound this is from the trauma that's been passed down from generation to generation and from the times of the witch trials where women were persecuted... Women in their power such as healers or midwives or the herbalists the medicine women …those that had that intuition the intuitive insight that the patriarchy wanted to close us down and so the women were persecuted …and what happened is the women would be scared to you know show their gifts or show that they were intuitives or psychics or the healers and then their sisters or their family would start turning on them because they didn't want to be accused... And so this is kind of like running through the generations you know and women were literally you know they were murdered for being witches and that sits in the DNA it sits in our past lives... and as soon as in for example in this life when a woman or a spiritual entrepreneur thinks right I'm going to get my gifts out there this fear comes up it's like "oh no... what if people are watching me? What if I'm being judged? What if I get hanged or killed for sharing?... and it's this inherent fear that drives us and stops us and keeps us small and this affects our chakras as well... So the chakra system is our energy system …so I find a lot of women have throat chakra blocks which is they don't want to speak...

SAMIA: Right…

SHIELA: …and this is that not wanting to share their gifts or talk about their gifts or feeling small or ashamed for being psychic or intuitive and it's like hiding literally hiding in your light so that's the Witch Wound…

SAMIA: Yeah... Oh my gosh and I see so much of that happening even in today's world... You know it's still... I know there is like people who really believe in the power of intuition and other such related abilities …but there is a large part of the population especially in the western cultures where these things have come to be seen as just like oh woo-woo and not real …like people don't take them seriously anymore... And so for people who have these gifts they can still be feeling that kind of fear of being laughed at or ostracized …and I know in for example some religious communities including some parts of the Muslim community that I belong to …you know there are people who have these attitudes of …if you have these kind of abilities… because they don't believe they're real they don't believe they're true …that not only can you be laughed at but just as you were mentioning in the context of history of the witch trials …people can actually get really nasty... and so even now I know this is a problem for sure…

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SHIELA: Yeah... and there's also that deep fear of men or authority as well that comes with that... So for example I mean this showed up for me quite a lot... so you'd be... and it shows up for a lot of women actually… You'll be driving along in your car and there's a police car behind you and you automatically go "Oh my God! They're after me what have I done?" and it's you know it comes from that it's this fear of authority …and that can really impact women in their business because you know you might not want to get your taxes down or your accounts down and because you fear authority so that can get you into trouble in your business as well and hold you back there because you don't want to you might not want to become that registered or you know take the next step in your business because of that fear of all the money side and or I need an accountant and all these things to come up...

SAMIA: Yes… Thank you for sharing those examples of how this trauma can look like in our life... What's the second kind of trauma... soul wound trauma…

SHIELA: So the second one is the Priestess Wound... And this goes back to the times where women were predecessors in the temples …and so this would go back to Egyptian times Atlantean Lemurian time… so we're going you know way back where the women who had that power so  they were the oracles they were the intuitives again... And their power was taken from them by men …it was misused by the men... and so what happened is they shut their power down and they kind of like went underground because it wasn't safe to be a Priestess and it just wasn't safe anymore …and they were also abused so there was a lot of abuse going on... And so their sacral chakra and their solar plexus chakras all kind of like closed down …and so I see this quite a lot in women now where there's this fear …and they're very much it's very much interlinked with the witch twins they're very similar but it's from those times of being judged and being… having to hide again …so it's like going underground and having to hide because their power was taken from them and they were abused by the men …so this kind of like shows up for women now in like not wanting to get on social media not feeling safe... So very similar to the Witch Wound …and it will also make you procrastinate make you feel overwhelmed you don't want to share your voice again so again there is a similarity …but it stems from that time when we were temple priestesses and our power was taken from us…

SAMIA: Yes... the priestess exercises her power in a different context... 

SHIELA: Yeah… 

SAMIA: Than the witch did... yes... And I know like in many traditions like so many ancient traditions there were like these rich cultures where women played these roles of priestesses are similar they had like similar functions like it wasn't all down to the men to regulate and lead their religious and faith communities… women actually had these amazing powerful roles to play but over time it got shut down …and I mean in the Muslim community we don't have like priesthood or anything as such at a formal level but for sure even in our community we have seen …like for example up to a thousand years ago it was very very common for there to be women's mosques that were led by women where women preached and taught and they were the leaders and you know... recognized leaders of the community... But for the last thousand years they pretty much died down to the point where people forgot that it used to be super normal to have women's mosque …and actually the reason I thought of this is because a few years ago I think it was about seven years ago now... that the very first women's mosque in America was started by someone that I actually happen to know right here in Los Angeles where I am …and there was such a huge like controversy and so much like hate and just like a lot of a you know just people getting angry and I was like "Why?"... you know this is not actually something we have just invented out of the blue… this actually used to be a part of our history… but there was just so much anger and suspicion and like just people feeling like "Why are you doing this? How dare you do this?" you know...

SHIELA: And it's you know not wanting the women... the female to have that power...

SAMIA: Yeah...

SHIELA: You know... and for the men and that's kind of like carried on now… Isn't it? If you look at like equal pay and things like that... That's...

SAMIA: Yeah...

SHIELA: It's not stopped really… Is it?

SAMIA: So what's the third kind of soul? 

SHIELA: So the third one is the Sisterhood Wound... and again very interlinked and this has its roots in the burning times as well and the rise of the patriarchal society... So this is where women were made to betray their sisters if you like… so you know pointing their finger "It's her it's not me... It's her"... And even within the family people sisters were literally turning on each other and pointing the finger at their mothers and their sisters …and so it's like the patriarchy pitted the women against each other and so this led to a really big mistrust of women and you see this now where you know you might be on social media and you might be looking and scrolling and judging other women like "Who does she think she is?" …and it's just from this deep wound where you know you've been outcast or you've been put against someone and so you do feel that it's like "Well who does she think she is?" and so you keep yourself small again you don't want to get out there you might find it very difficult to set boundaries with other people as well… so this is where you know you get issues with clients stepping over your boundaries because of this deep wound and you might feel… find also in... yeah and this comes from... we kind of like grow up with this as well because this kind of like comes from our childhood as well where you know you'll have kids or girls being mean …you know the Mean Girl Syndrome... where they are mean to other girls or they'll gossip and it comes from this sisterhood …and jealousy as well... All comes from this sisterhood wound and so you know you'll compare yourself you'll put yourself down you won't want to collaborate with other women... So again this goes way back because we… in that you know in the past times we would collaborate we'd have you know the temples we would collaborate and do things together …but now we don't do that because we don't trust other women... So it's a wound that comes up and again they're all linked so you know they all overlap…

SAMIA: Yes... and you know another way in which I'm wondering if you see this being part of the Sister Wound as well …like one of the dynamics that I have seen in the relationships among women …especially this was true when I lived in India and Pakistan you know where... like my family and I we were …well certainly in India we were in a smaller town and our family lifestyle was pretty segregated the culture at large around us was pretty gender-segregated …and so on the one hand you know the deepest closest relationships I had in my life were with other girls and women but then I guess a big part of that also was the deepest conflicts and problems that I had were also with other girls and women... And one of the aspects of it was that you know when we were thinking about all these rules that patriarchy imposes upon us that are actually you know stifling for a woman …that other women are really the front line enforcers of those rule... So it's not just that you're telling on someone when they might be in trouble …but it's that you won't even allow your sister or your mother or your daughter to do something that is going against the rules... So like if a woman wants to stand up for her right to for example choose her own partner in marriage you know the other women will tell her No forget it you know this is you have to accept the match that is made for you and that this dream that you're seeing to or you know that that you can choose your own partner that is not acceptable it's not real it will just get you in trouble …and they will take active steps to sort of discourage you and prevent you from living this dream or acting upon this dream for yourself and you feel that pressure and that you know this enforcement happening... You feel it most directly from the other women around you because you have so little interaction with the men and you know …so is that part of the sister wound as well…

SHIELA: Yeah... It does sound like it …so it's that fear again it's the fear of the authority isn't it... It's a fear of well if we don't do it that you know this is the way we've been told we have to do it so we need to conform it's that conformity... and wanting to in a way wanting to please the patriarchy... so yeah that feel it... And again they're all interlinked but that feels more like it is the sisterhood wound …it's you know your sisters although they want …they should want the best for you really they don't because they actually secretly might want you to be unhappy...

SAMIA: Right because it's sort of like you know sharing in that experience… like just the other day... I watch a lot of Indian dramas... And there is this like whole episode and the scene in it was that there was this lady who was in an abusive relationship and she made the decision to leave the relationship …she was like I'm going to leave I cannot take this anymore… and other women around her were like No How can you do that? How can you abandon your family? How can you break your marriage? You have to make it work… You haven't made enough effort …make more effort… And she was like No I don't want to do that… How can you tell me to do that? You're a woman… You should support me… and you're like... and one of the women was like Look at my life… Haven't I been living with my husband for the past 20 years and you know what he's like to me and look I'm making it work and you need to make it work with your partner… You know... 

SHIELA: Yeah... 

SAMIA: …it's just like sometimes... it's that…

SHIELA: Absolutely yeah... And it's like you don't want …so in a way you don't want that other person to be happy because you're not happy …that's kind of like part of that wounding as well…

SAMIA: Okay... What's the fourth wound that we should be aware of… 

SHIELA: So the fourth wound is something that I've called the Starseed Wound... So this really is people that and again this may be a little bit out there and wowoo… but there are people that don't actually originate from earth okay... so they've had past lives and incarnations on other star systems.. but they have been… they come to earth to live their earth life and these for me what I'm finding are these are the spiritual entrepreneurs these are the change-makers these have got big missions but they don't really know it... It's like they've been cut off from that… so the planets and the star systems that they've come from that they've had previous lives on... Are much more evolved than earth… so when they come into the  density of earth it's really heavy it's really you know there's so much pain and suffering here and they're not used to it… so they get lost they find society very hostile they're incredibly sensitive and they feel like they don't belong… says that… so there's this feeling of and not fitting in and that is from them actually they're not from here so they're not going to fit in... And so what I help people do is understand where they actually are from and help them connect to their mission here because they have got a mission that they are here to complete but they've been so cut off from it and they just don't feel like they belong anywhere so they find life very very difficult… 

SAMIA: Interesting... When you were sharing and describing this it immediately made me think of the Buddha and Jesus... like you know these are… I mean they …like for example you know we know the story about the Buddha and how he... and actually you know like he when he first of all people tried to …according to the story I don't know how much of it is factual and how much of it you know is just the story to teach us a lesson… but the story that I have heard is about how there was a prophecy made that you know he would …that when he grew up that he would you know become this kind of person that would leave the world and abandon his kingdom and so forth... And so his parents tried to shield him from any kind of …knowing any kind of suffering in life because they hoped that would keep him with them and you know committed to staying in the kingdom …but at some point he got exposed to the sufferings of people in the world and you know it shook him to his core and then you know he left on his journey to become the Buddha to become the Enlightened One… and he was always like… I mean he was such a soul apart you know from how other people around him were and I guess from a certain perspective he never fit in...

SHIELA: Yeah yeah…

SAMIA: …fit in with other people... and I mean even when he came back you know once he was awake once he was enlightened he was still like so much more advanced than everyone else around him and I mean I see that with the story of Jesus although in a slightly different context …actually now that I'm thinking about it I see that in the story of the Prophet Muhammad and a lot of the other great prophets and sages and saints that we know about...

SHIELA: Yeah absolutely… So you know they are these enlightened beings if you like that are here for a reason …they're here to spread light and to you know impart their knowledge on humanity and help humanity in some way... And there are a lot more of these lightworkers if you like or these star seeds coming to earth now because the earth is going through a big shift as you know with things that are happening now we are going through a big shift and we need these people to wake up now and you know step into their mission …but they just feel you know …and it's like they feel homesick and they don't know why …and it's because they're not at home …they're not home …this is not their home... And so it's helping them to fit in... And a lot of the times they will have very very difficult childhoods as well because they don't fit in with their family …it's like they've been plonked into a family and they don't relate to any of them because they're such evolved souls and lovely absolutely beautiful bright energies and we've got a lot more of the children like the crystal children and the rainbow children coming in who are much more enlightened and they're here to help humanity so yeah that's the last one is the star seeds …they come in with this wounding of why am I here I don't know what I'm here to do …and it's just you know they need to be woken up …they need to be shown their mission basically and woken up to that… 

SAMIA: Yeah yeah… and I can see what you mean about all of these different wounds being sort of interlinked because like anytime you are different from the norm like whether it's because you have the powers of the witch or the priestess or whether it's that you're this Starseed …it sets you apart... and yes indeed... so my gosh... Okay so now I feel like I have a much better sense of what these wounds are and what they can look like in our lives... So what are some things that we can begin to do to heal …like what is maybe the first step to the healing process in the way that you work and help your people...

SHIELA: So the way that I do this is I do this through past life regression… I do a lot of past life regression work... So this is taking people back to those past lives back to that time where they were a witch where they were persecuted …you know back to the first lifetime and then we hear all that we do some work around healing what happened in that life so they can take their power back… We do this with the priestess wound as well …and I do a lot of ancestral healing as well... So this is going back through the lines the ancestral lines seeing what's going on there …and because I'm intuitive I can kind of like see what's going on so I will also get visions of what you know what may have happened for this particular person …and because I see things on an energetic level as well …I work with someone that I call the etheric surgeon who helps to release blockages the energetic blockages so we released those as well... One of the quickest ways for like healing in the witch wound is to work on your chakras so I see a lot of throat chakra issues… this is the biggest thing that I see and this is the thing that stops entrepreneurs from speaking out and getting their gifts out there... so you know just healing that chakra doing some chakra work can really help as well …but most of my work is through past life regression and ancestral healing energetic healing and I do some I do a lot of subconscious work as well... so taking people under hypnosis to revisit things and times …and a lot of it you know sometimes it's in this life so don't rule this life out …but it's yeah... there's quite a lot to it but it's all in terms of past lives and I also flip in two different dimensions as well …so we can have lives in alternate dimensions so that's we're going down a completely different line there but I go into the dimensions as well …and I heal along the past timeline and the future timeline as well …so we stop it for any future generations so that your future generations or the clients future generations do not have that wounding anymore... so that's how I do it…

SAMIA: Yeah... that is really cool and I'm so glad that you mentioned about healing the future timeline as well because just the fact that you know if I have one of these traumas that has been passed down to me down all these generations the last thing I would want to do once I have awareness of this to pass it down to further future generations... That is so cool... And it just speaks also to you know the reality that time is a relative experience and in fact even in the theory of the relativity of time which Einstein first made popular and so forth… you know it's like past future this is actually like a prospective issue… you can in fact you know... it's like we… our brains limit us to experiencing time in this very linear fashion… but in fact time is not like that...

SHIELA: No... it's well my perspective is it's circular so you can you know you can be at this point here you can go forward you can go back...

SAMIA: Yeah... 

SHIELA: You know at this one point so it's... I see it as circular… 

SAMIA: That is so cool …that is so cool... and I just had like one curious question come up when you mention like healing through past life regression or hypnosis where you help people sort of get in touch with you know the source of these wounds... but then I know you as you mentioned you also practice energy healing... And I was just wondering you know... I know it's really helpful when you have the ability and the opportunity to gain awareness of where your wounds are coming from at this deeper level in terms of the healing process …but if it's for some reason if someone is not able to get that insight that awareness... Is it still possible for them to heal the wound in this moment anyway …maybe through energy healing or some other process… 

SHIELA: Yeah yeah… absolutely… So usually the awareness will come so when you're doing any kind of healing that awareness will come they'll get an oh yeah... that feels yeah that feels right to me.... but they'll just getting in a knowing and sometimes all that all you need is that you know that light switch going on... oh yeah that makes sense that's why I do this... and then you can actually heal it in that moment but it's having that conscious awareness …kind of like gives you that "ah okay" and sometimes that's all you need... 

SAMIA: Yeah 

SHIELA: …doing any kind of healing work will give you that because you'll feel something a memory will come up or you know you will just get something and that will be the "aha! Now I get it"...

SAMIA: That is so cool... thank you so so much and I'm having so much fun learning from you… I don't want to end this conversation and it's time for us to wrap up for today... Do you have any last words or thoughts to share with us for now... 

SHIELA: Wow... I didn't... what a question... So yes... so we all have these wounds so you know it's nothing to be ashamed of …these are collective wounds and we all have aspects of them …and it you know …when we understand that and when we get a handle of that and go back and do that work you know our lives can change and we don't have to hold on to those restrictions or those constraints anymore for ourselves or for our children… 

SAMIA: Thank you... So on that amazing note of hope and healing we're going to go ahead and wrap up for today... and I will just remind you our listener to please make sure you check the show notes because we're going to add Sheila's links in the show note... I'll add my links in the show notes... Please reach out for help and support whenever you're ready for that... and until we connect next time I just wish you lots and lots of peace and joy :).